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'5/23/2021 - 100 Questions for a Lolita'

'5/25/2021 - 25 Things About Me'

100 Questions for a Lolita

answered on 5/23/2021 - source

1. Please tell us your Name, Birthday and Where You're From.

call me r. i was born on 1/15/2003, and i'm from the east coast of the U.S..

2. What is your Height, Weight, Clothes Size and Shoe Size?

i'm ~163 cm and (currently) ~70 kg. i usually run a medium, and my foot size is ~8.

3. Why did you start wearing Lolita Fashion?

as a kid, i found it instinctual to not like dresses or anything feminine, seeing as i grew up masculine. but at around 16-17, i started embracing my feminine side and let my guard down a bit. my friend (you may know him as cadnomori) introduced me to lolita, and i gradually warmed up to it. at first, i didn't get the whole frills and lace thing, but now i can't get enough!

4. What's your favourite genre(style) of Lolita?

hard to pick, but i find country lolita very cute and beautiful. i'm also a big fan of sweet and gothic, though. country just tends to have gingham and man... do i love gingham... ♡

5. Are you committed to the above or do you have your own definition?

not really! i like most lolita genres... i think the beauty of the dress should always be picked despite it's type.

6. Do you have any piercings, and if so how many?

not currently... i may get my ears pierced at some point, though.

7. What is your favourite brand?

...to be honest, i don't think i have one! i know a lot of lolitas tend to swear by specific brands like angelic pretty and btssb, but a lot of dresses i like end up being by indie brands, so... >_<

8. What is your favourite piece of clothing?

the only lolita dress i currently own is a cute black op by an indie brand, so that's my default right now...

9. How many Lolita friends do you have?

two currently, both best friends... i'd love to meet more people into it, but online forums are hard-- lots of e-lolitas have very bad attitudes, especially towards masculine people... eh

10. What is the best thing about being a Lolita?

getting into the dresses! seeing how people light up when they put on their dresses warms my heart.

11. On the contrary, what is the worst?

oh man... the hatred towards masculine/overweigt/non-white lolitas, the limited sizings of most dresses, the attitudes of a lot of e-lolitas... kind of scared me to become a lolita, but here i am anyways.

12. What magazine(s) do you read?

i love the look of the fruits magazine in japan, but honestly? never was much of a magazine-reader.

13. Headdresses v Bonnets v Ribbons (Headbands)?

i'd have to go with... ribbons! i just love the shape of bows.

14. Do you wear bloomers?

not yet! i need to get a pair at some point.

15. Do you tie your headdress in the front or the back?

don't own one, but probably in the back!

16. Do you have a favourite music genre or band?

i like most genres, but i usually lean towards rock, alternative, and pop... here are some niche artists/bands i like: momus (electronic), the paper chase (alternative rock), harley poe (folk), devi mccallion (electronic), nastyona (baroque pop), alex g (alternative), bulldog eyes (lo-fi), of montreal (alternative), elliott kozel (electronic).

17. What is your phone ringtone?

the default one lol.

18. Do you go to lives/concerts in Lolita?

sounds fun, but then you remember you'd sweat a lot, and you're around other sweaty, pumped-up people, who may or may not have food... ehhhh

19. For those that go to lives/concerts, do you headbang?

only been to one concert (the rolling stones 2020 tour) and it wasn't a very headbang-y environment... i did get up and dance though while everyone around me was politely seated lol.

20. What colours do you like?

black, red, pink, yellow, off-white.

21. What are your hobbies?

art mainly, but i also like coding, video games, and hanging out with friends ^_^

22. What is your favourite perfume?

umh... well, i don't wear any presently, as i'm worried (being masculine) people would think i'm weird... but i think fruity smells would be my favorite. maybe i'll get some at some point!

23. Being a Lolita, is there anything you are careful of?

making sure i don't sweat a lot in my dress, do any hard movements, stretch the fabric, or eat while in it. social-wise, i try to keep an open, understanding mind towards other lolitas so they're comfortable.

24. Where do you usually hang out?

home... i want to go outside in my lolita, but fear judgement... at some point i'd love to meet up with my friends who are into it and have a lolita hangout! i'm also planning on wearing lolita to whatever convention i go to in the future.

25. How many times do you wear lolita a week?

when i first got my dress, i wore it a lot, at least once a week, but now its only really a few times a month, mainly because i'm so busy (and also because i'm having some trouble with acne right now -_-).

26. Please tell us an embarrassing story you are guilty of from your early days of wearing lolita.

none so far (luckily).

27. What is your hairstyle and hair colour now?

really? i have the average men's haircut, with a part on my right side... nothing special. i have naturally curly, ginger hair.

28. How long is your lolita history?

about 1-2 years, currently.

29. Do you have a dedicated place for storing lolita?

not really, it's just in my closet, hanging with my other clothes.

30. Up to now have you ever thought about quitting lolita?

not yet... hopefully never. i've questioned investing in it, as, again, i'm scared of people's attitudes, but i think i'm more confident now.

31. What is your motto?

if something makes you happy, and nobody's getting hurt, do it!

32. What is your future dream?

to stay happy and finally fall in love.

33. Is there any celebrity you think "This person definitely suits Lolita!"?

not very into the celebrity-scene, personally... i just don't really get it!

34. Please tell us about an item that is full of memories

lolita-wise, nothing yet... but in general, i have a plush my mother died with. i gave it to her in the hospital after winning it at a claw machine (the first and only game i've ever won), kissed it on the head, and said "if you ever miss me, kiss it here!". she kept it by her side the whole time. it has a breast cancer pin and a knitted angel on it, as well. it means much to me!

35. What is the very first item you got?

the dress i mentioned earlier! it's my first and only (as of now). it's a black, long-sleeved op with gold star buttons and a crescent moon (pinned) bow on the front. it has tieable (attached) bows on the cuffs. it's very cute, and i think a good starting dress! you can see it here.

36. When having your photo taken, do you have a pose you always do?

i like holding the dress to the side a bit and bending my legs a little-- like i'm curtseying! i also like doing the ever-useful peacesign.

37. What is your bible? (Book, Magazine, CD etc)


38. What is the height of the tallest shoes you wear?

i don't have any cute shoes, let alone heels T_T... i'd love to get combat boots, though.

39. Have you ever worn a tiara?

no... don't think i ever would.

40. Occasionally do you want to try Ouji?

well, it's made for people like me, so yes! but i find dresses so much more cute...

41. What kind of lace do you like?

i like the standard rounded lace with holes on the edges. something about flower-patterned lace doesn't do it for me... feels weird.

42. Do you have dolls? If you do please tell us about her!

nope. dolls kind of scare me... don't think i could own one >_<

43. What's inside your Lolita bag?

i don't have one yet! i think i'd put just regular items in there if i'm going out with it: my phone, wallet, earbuds, id... nothing spillable/spoilable!

44. What's your favourite flower?

tulips all the way! i love them so much... key to my heart. i also like roses, sunflowers, and wildflowers.

45. What is your favourite accessory right now?

i have a few to choose from! white gloves, black choker with a bell and bow, cat ears, paws, and tail... i'd say the white gloves, but they're hard to use as i can't use my phone with them on -_-

46. What is your favourite or recommended cosmetics?

i don't wear or own makeup. i've only worn it a few times in my life, but i would guess blush.

47. Big and beautiful eyes are the proof of a doll! So, do you wear false eyelashes? Also if you have any tips for application please tell us.

again, not a makeup person...

48. Please tell us your eye makeup fixation.


49. Is your lipstick red? Blue? Black? Pink?


50. What colour do you use often for your manicures?

i rarely paint my nails (i'm very bad at it), but the last time i did, i used a navy-black!

51. Have you ever stealthily changed into your clothes in a train (or public) toilet?

umh... o_o no.

52. Have you ever done a twinning coord? A triplet coord? What are your thoughts?

oh, not yet, but i'd love to. i think me and fox could easily do a kuro/shiro coord, and sam and i could contrast eachother with a sweet/gothic coord~!

53. What do you do to keep your figure? Any recommendations?

i'm currently in the process of weight loss via classic dieting and exercising, but i would recommend that everyone does what makes them happy and keeps them healthy. remember: no one is built the same! overweight people have as much of a space in lolita as skinny people.

54. Wearing lolita alone. Are you okay with it?

yes! it's how i do it 99% of the time, anyways.

55. How much do you spend a month on clothes and accessories?

well, my first dress was < $100... i think i'd only spend over $100 as a personal, once-a-year gift.

56. Was there a considerable time difference between when you found out about Lolita and when you started wearing it?

it was about a year in difference, so i don't think so!

57. What is the most expensive thing you've bought up to now?

again, my first dress is my only dress right now, and it was < $100. was not expensive.

58. Lolita is really expensive. How to get money for it?

i mostly rely on commissions/freelance and holiday checks right now, but once i start college (soon), i'd like to get some sort of job and set aside some money for my wishlist.

59. Just between the two of us, generally how much have you spent on Lolita altogether up until now?

once again, under $100... for now, anyways.

60. What shop do you want close to you?

humh... for popular brands, maybe angelic pretty or metamorphose? but i do prefer indie brands most times...

61. Just between the two of us, are there any shops you think are a total ripoff?

i suppose? angelic pretty sells for very high rates, but i don't think it's necessarily a "rip-off".

62. Do you use online shops? If you have what are the good and bad points about it? If you haven't, please tell us why.

yes, as online shopping is really my only option available. pros: wide selection, lower prices (most times), web sales, easy to understand... cons: deciding on size, if second-hand, you're not always 100% certain what you are getting... make sure you have all your measurements, please! for the love of god! if you can, message the seller, or other owners if you have questions about it.

63. ちょっと秘密にしときたいけど私だけにコッソリ☆な個人製作サイトさんを教えてください

a dinnae ken...

64. I definitely won't get it! But I really really want it! Do you have a certain something from a certain brand that you want?

the sweet berry gingham jsk from metamorphose de temps fille is very very cute! but anything with gingham and strawberries is automatically on my list.

65. What do you do with pieces you get bored of?

probably sell or gift to friends.

66. What is the last thing you bought (even outside of Lolita)?

blank amiibo cards.

67. Is there something you'll probably never have it again, but you can't forget about?

nothing, really... i try not to dwell on regrets too much.

68. What do you think of people that wear lolita only to lives/concerts?

questionable i guess, but if it makes them happy, good!

69. What do you think of people that don't wear makeup with lolita fashion?

well, i am one of those people so... lol. again, do whatever makes you happy ^_^

70. There's a Lolita wearing the same coord as you! What do you think?

i'd love to know why they chose their dress! get to know their specific taste, see if we're similar!

71. From what age until what age do you think is forgivable to wear Lolita?

i think any age can be into lolita! i guess i'd caution younger folks from buying very expensive lolita, seeing as their size will change over time and stabilize only when they're older.

72. In what situation do you think you would have to stop wearing Lolita?

if my attention needed to be somewhere more important.

73. Do you have any "Stop doing this!" warnings?

stop judging others so harshly! if someone isn't hurting anyone, just keep your misgivings to yourself, please... everyone has personal opinions, but that's no reason to bully or demean others. being kind is a very easy thing to do.

74. Do you have any thoughts about what a Lolita should be like?

open-minded, understanding, creative, strong-willed.

75. Excluding Q.73, is there anything you don't want a Lolita to do?

again, judge or bully others. other than that, be yourself!

76. What do you think of boys wearing Lolita?

well, seeing as i am perceived as a boy by most, i still consider myself pretty boy-ish, and i grew up a boy, i think it's quite fine and normal, actually lol. fashion shouldn't be gendered.

77. Since wearing Lolita has anything about you changed from before?

i've become much more comfortable in my feminine side, and more confident in general.

78. What do the people around you say about you wearing Lolita?

my friends and the internet are really the only groups that know about it, so so far, everyone has been very kind! me and my friends like to look at and discuss lolita often.

79. In the midsummer heat what kind of Lolita do you wear?

i'd probably want to wear more light, pastel dresses. theme-wise, summer makes me think of country lolita... but really, should anyone wear lolita in the blistering heat...?

80. Do you wear Lolita to school/your workplace?

i thought about going out in a dress before-- it was when i got accepted into college and went out to eat to celebrate-- but i ended up chickening out lol.

81. What are your regular style of clothes?

i wear very casual clothes. t-shirts, shorts, sweatpants, pjs... but if i could, i'd wear gothic, grunge, or japanese street fashion.

82. Are you opposed to second hand clothing?

no! it's a reliable, affordable way to get nice clothing. i love thrifting, actually. you find such unique clothes!

83. Do you have a partner? And do they understand Lolita?

not yet~! i'd love to have someone who understands my love of lolita, and participates with me...

84. Please tell us the image of your ideal guy.

someone i have a spark with... who i could understand, and have them understand me. who isn't mean-spirited, prudish, or judgemental. someone who buys me flowers just because... i love people with a good sense of humor, and i've always been attracted to the 'quiet, misunderstood poet' type, but there's also a place in my heart for the good-old 'rough exterior, warm heart' guy. ahhh... ♡

85. Is there a Lolita that has left a big impression on you?

definitely my brother, fox! have i really mentioned him 3 times already... anyways, he introduced me to lolita, and has such good taste and tips. he also made me feel okay in my venture, seeing as hes a male who's into lolita. i wouldn't be answering this questionnaire without him!

86. Have you ever made your own clothes? If so what kind?

nope, but i have actually thought about it! but... i have no sewing skills...

87. Have you ever made your own accessories? If so what?

nope x2.

88. Is there an item you've made that you think "It's a great success!"?

nope x3

89. If you have an ideal coord, please talk about it.

i'd love to have a red or pink gingham jsk with a white blouse and gingham bows... maybe with a straw hat, or a picnic basket.

90. Is there someone you admire? What kind of person are they?

fox, again (enjoy all the attention you're getting, mister!). as i said before, he's just such a kind, non-judgemental individual who made me feel good in wearing lolita and guided me down the right path.

91. For one day you can go on a date with that special person. They will also be wearing their favourite clothes. So who is it, what are you wearing and where is the date?

oh man... well, i don't have a crush currently, so i'm not sure how to answer! but i think the idea of a contrasting coord would be so sweet.

92. If you could open a shop in the future, what kind would it be?

no clothe-making skills buuuut... i love the idea of a shop that caters to those who need it, such as men and overweight people. maybe i'd sell mostly gingham stuff... oh what a dream!

93. Unconsciously, this catches your eye! Which motif is it?

strawberries (or any fruit really), crosses, animals, stars, clouds.

94. Would you also want your child(ren) to wear Lolita?

eh, not much paternal instinct in me... although i've thought about having a son before: teaching him what i know, letting him explore his interests, making sure he's happy. it's a cute idea, but i don't think i'm ready for that responsibility.

95. How much do you spend on each piece of clothing?

if there are options for a lower price, i'm going for it! i would say under or around $100.

96. This is a Lolita! If you think there's a gesture like that please tell us.

not sure what to answer for this one, honestly... hum

97. Even if it's only one time I wanna wear it! Is there something you want to wear other than Lolita?

i love seifuku, and j-fashion in general, especially the street style. my wardrobe is quite small, so i'd love to expand it.

98. Looking at your Lolita, if you could use one word to represent it, what would it be?

gaol (love).

99. What is your image of an ideal Lolita?

open-minded, good fashion coordination, kind! whose dresses exemplify their personality.

100. 大変お疲れ様でした! Please share your thoughts on taking this questionnaire.

was so fun! took me a few hours, though... made me really reflect on my idea of lolita and how it may differ from the standard.

if you read this far, or even just skimmed, thankyou! have a wonderful day.

45 Things About Me

answered on 5/23/2021 - source


1) Where do you live?

in the east coast of america.

2) What time is it?

currently 7:22 a.m.! i had coffee a few hours ago since i couldn't sleep...


1) What are your parent's names?


2) Do you have brothers and sisters? If so, what are their names?

umh... i do have siblings... but i'm not giving out their information...?! (old deviantart was such a time...)

3) Who is your favourite family member?

probably my older brother (no, not fox lol), i get along the best with him and understand him more.

4) Do you get along with your family?

kind of... my mother is deceased, my father is estranged, and my siblings i still see, but i feel very different than them... i assume this is because i have autism, but it could also be our generation difference, me being generation z and them all being millenials.

5) Where do you fit in? (youngest, oldest)

i'm the baby lol.


1) Who is your best friend?

i have 3, actually! fox, alexi, and sam! love them very much.

2) Do you think you are popular?

no lol.

3) What's your favourite thing to do with your friends?

we call often, but seeing them in person was so fun! i'd love to do it again soon. other than that, i like playing games with them.

4) Where or how did you meet your best friend?

i met fox after he drew some art of my character out of nowhere in 2016. almost immediately, we were inseperable. a few years later, he introduced me to his friends, sam and alexi, while we played roblox in 2018. we warmed up to eachother pretty fast!

5) Would you do anything for your friends?

oh, absolutely.


1) Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend? If so, what is their name?

not currently!

2) How many boyfriends/girlfriends have you had?

i've been in about 2 serious relationships, but when i was younger, i had a lot of flings with people i barely knew lol.

3) Have you ever been in love?

yes, sadly.

4) What is the craziest thing you and your bf/gf have done?

i'm not sure... but a funny story i have is that both my ex-girlfriends cheated on me (via cam m*sturbating) while i was dating one of them, so...

5) Is there anyone you dated previously you wish you were still with?

no. both my exes kind of hurt me in some way or another.


1) What is your favourite colour?

probably black.

2) What is your favourite song?

right now it might be hast thou considered the tetrapod by the mountain goats. it's a beautiful song with great meaning to me. love the last lines especially.

3) What is your favourite band or musician?

hmm... hard to pick one! but i'd say the rolling stones.

4) What is your favourite book?

i never finished it, but man did i love song of achilles by madeline miller. it's a wonderful story with amazing writing. please pick it up if you can!

5) What is your favourite food?

ham has a special place in my heart.

6) What is your favourite drink?

non-alcoholic: chocolate milk. alcoholic: cider.

7) What is your favourite subject in school?

i actually really enjoyed physics! i had a fun and easy time with it, and my teacher was a goofball.

8) What is your favourite element?

i think fire...

9) What is your favourite website?

neocities, of course ^_^

10) What is your favourite television show?

breaking bad! breaking bad!! such an amazing show...

thankyou for reading this far! hope you learned more about me somehow.